tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post2214299666321382742..comments2023-11-02T23:13:02.688+10:00Comments on The Eclectic Reader: 25 years my sweet baby girl ... Loving, Grieving & RememberingTeddyreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09553244883194436385noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-48011407034985944002015-08-02T06:25:02.608+10:002015-08-02T06:25:02.608+10:00I somehow missed this post when first published bu...I somehow missed this post when first published but I hope my comment will still get through. <br /><br />My brother and sister in law lost a baby who came, not living, at six months along. They were able to take photographs holding him in their arms. Their grief was so tangible to everyone, but I remember my SIL saying I was the only person who sent a large bouquet of sympathy flowers. Others didn't want to talk about it and just wanted to move on. They went to a grief group for losing stillborn children for quite awhile, and made everlasting good friends with one couple from it. My brother and SIL went on to have another child; their friends were not able to and remain childless. <br /><br />There is a Christmas ornament hung on their tree every year for this son, along with ones for their two living children. I believe people can never forget a child they had, no matter how long ago they lost them and how short a time they were with them. <br /><br />Sorry for your loss and your grief, Sheree. Good luck with your project to be a grief photographer, what a wonderful way to give back... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-86198536834761963202015-07-15T23:22:27.991+10:002015-07-15T23:22:27.991+10:00I'm so sorry you and your husband had to go th...I'm so sorry you and your husband had to go through the loss of a child. I can't imagine your pain. I do not like the saying "time heals all wounds" because it is just not true at all. Somehow we just learn to cope a bit better in public.<br /><br />I'm amazed that someone would say "wow you still 'remember' after all this time" How could you EVER forget!<br /><br />Hugs to you, your husband and sons. Although they were born after Taleah, I'm sure they feel her loss also. I think that taking her cake each year is a brilliant idea!Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16974471357928655315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-45071510718710756612015-07-13T13:32:12.115+10:002015-07-13T13:32:12.115+10:00Sheree, I sit here crying for your beautiful Talea...Sheree, I sit here crying for your beautiful Taleah, my heart full of sadness for your loss. Thank you so much for sharing, your strength is inspiring. Recently, the woman who owns where Gage gets OT and speech lost a baby one month before she got to meet her. I was heartbroken and didn't know what to say so when I saw her a month later I said nothing (I was in a room full of people and that can be my only defense). Thank you for giving me confidence in reaching out next time. You are a warrior mama and your two sons were raised loving and celebrating Taleah. Hugs from Ohio!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-9655963550602840682015-07-13T12:24:56.521+10:002015-07-13T12:24:56.521+10:00I'm so sorry. This is a beautiful post in your...I'm so sorry. This is a beautiful post in your angel's memory. Thank you for sharing it.Jen at Introverted Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804424405257091608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-84341576082281176642015-07-12T15:16:45.721+10:002015-07-12T15:16:45.721+10:00Such a beautiful post, thank you for sharing Talea...Such a beautiful post, thank you for sharing Taleah's story with us it was both beautiful and heartbreaking.. Kimberly @ Caffeinated Reviewerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15658833731713991138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-25960403126991009752015-07-10T22:39:53.868+10:002015-07-10T22:39:53.868+10:00What a beautiful tribute to your precious girl. *H...What a beautiful tribute to your precious girl. *HUGS* Sending loving thoughts your way.Jen Twimomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11267405113503713323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-52816470225296373272015-07-10T19:37:43.993+10:002015-07-10T19:37:43.993+10:00Thank you for sharing your story Sheree. It is a b...Thank you for sharing your story Sheree. It is a beautiful story and sad but a lovely tribute to Taleah. Big hugs. Happy Birthday to your angel in heaven.<br /><br />I recently learned of a lovely organisation called Bears of Hope when a close friend told me about it (her twin sister had lost her baby). I wish I had known about them when I had my miscarriages. http://www.bearsofhope.org.auAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04391618545224823807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-58851317530476341672015-07-09T22:03:22.839+10:002015-07-09T22:03:22.839+10:00Thank you for sharing about Taleah, Sheree. A beau...Thank you for sharing about Taleah, Sheree. A beautiful post. Mary (Bookfan)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00573126476574980169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-50058926873917582152015-07-09T11:30:02.510+10:002015-07-09T11:30:02.510+10:00You are absolutely right Deb, sometimes even this ...You are absolutely right Deb, sometimes even this far down the track it seems like yesterday and it hurts and I remember that little pearl of wisdom. Even though missing Taleah will always be an ache most days she's a warm fuzzy xxTeddyreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553244883194436385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-84841727259239915132015-07-09T11:21:14.960+10:002015-07-09T11:21:14.960+10:00Oh Karen I'm sure your love and support meant ...Oh Karen I'm sure your love and support meant a lot to your friend Emma. I think it's beautiful you went to the funeral, it acknowledged your friend's son and their loss and pain. <br /><br />I think there's a difference between saying nothing and ignoring. You can hold someone's hand and sit in silence and that simple contact is supportive. I'd prefer silence than hearing well meaning but hurtful platitudes (of which I heard many) like "you can always have more children" "it was for the best" but I'm sure we have all at some point said the 'wrong' thing that has inadvertently caused further pain. <br /><br />I had friends who couldn't cope and completely avoided me but I had a dear friend who like yourself looked at my photos, listened to me and let me hold her daughter, born a few weeks before Taleah. Teddyreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553244883194436385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-48248477881517975462015-07-09T11:19:30.006+10:002015-07-09T11:19:30.006+10:00She is beautiful! As a mom who also has a baby in...She is beautiful! As a mom who also has a baby in heaven, I agree with everything you've said. Corey would have been 29 13 days ago. Every year my rose bush blooms on his day, except for this year. We moved the bushes last summer and they got off to a slow start. But what is miraculous is that it was okay on the day, but a few days later I was having a bad day physically which brought those emotions to the surface and when I looked outside there was a rose! Nise' https://www.blogger.com/profile/15586400022454009379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-16812782438675083752015-07-09T07:40:46.005+10:002015-07-09T07:40:46.005+10:00I don't know the loss of a child, and even tho...I don't know the loss of a child, and even though I know grief, I can't comprehend the pain you've felt and still feel. Thank you for sharing.Kathy Reads Fictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01670090074945964381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-68379326226028490132015-07-09T02:04:59.863+10:002015-07-09T02:04:59.863+10:00This is a very touching post Teddyree. Happy Birt...This is a very touching post Teddyree. Happy Birthday to your angel in heaven, Taleah.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16263900929320390381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-38148933123506236022015-07-09T01:03:20.109+10:002015-07-09T01:03:20.109+10:00What a beautiful post honouring your daughter Sher...What a beautiful post honouring your daughter Sheree, and I admire your strength in choosing to help others who are faced with the unimaginable. I had 3 miscarriage's and though I never held any of those in my arms I still think of themshelleyrae @ book'd outhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03888977858862922561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-74446471634020293182015-07-09T00:51:21.925+10:002015-07-09T00:51:21.925+10:00What an incredibly wonderful and heart wrenching p...What an incredibly wonderful and heart wrenching post. I have never lost a child so I can't fully imagine the grief but how wonderful that you've really talked to your boys about her and made her real for them. My grandfather had a sister who died before he was born and he doesn't even know her name which has always made him very sad and like there's a shadow there. Katherine Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12126062556416434416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-36135358442139555982015-07-09T00:33:17.303+10:002015-07-09T00:33:17.303+10:00One always remembers. BF's mum remembers the g...One always remembers. BF's mum remembers the girls she lost and visits the graveBlodeueddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03435479623560871881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-72261217813791985652015-07-08T22:16:25.166+10:002015-07-08T22:16:25.166+10:00Sheree, this is so touching and beautiful. Thank y...Sheree, this is so touching and beautiful. Thank you for sharing this with us. I am moved beyond words by your strength. Lots of hugs and love to you today.Brandiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14650612252443297585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-74412246792109858872015-07-08T21:54:00.501+10:002015-07-08T21:54:00.501+10:00Beautiful post for your beautiful daughter ... hug...Beautiful post for your beautiful daughter ... hugs and love on this most precious day!! Julie Tucker-Wolekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16120580254018653082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-43895498457247458942015-07-08T21:53:23.416+10:002015-07-08T21:53:23.416+10:00So very touching. We're honored that you shar...So very touching. We're honored that you shared it with us. Our loved ones who have 'gone on' before us are always with us. At least that's what I believe. They watch over us. Hugs.Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495669354860191042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-27049670926624665762015-07-08T18:28:35.788+10:002015-07-08T18:28:35.788+10:00Thank you for sharing your beautiful aching soul, ...Thank you for sharing your beautiful aching soul, your lyrical prose and your secret whispers. You are one brave and resilient lady. Long may you be blessed. Hugs and more.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16901707000225535616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-71991869242945386462015-07-08T17:29:11.927+10:002015-07-08T17:29:11.927+10:00Sheree I can't imagine experiencing something ...Sheree I can't imagine experiencing something like this. To lose Taleah after 19 hours such heartbreak. I love how you have included her in your lives with the birthday remembrances each year and in other little ways. Your deep compassion shines through often, and its an honour to be gifted with the sharing of this terrible loss. I am sure she hears those whispers of love.Kathryn Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08964951326616144323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-5406828928056293332015-07-08T16:51:22.112+10:002015-07-08T16:51:22.112+10:00Oh just beautiful Teddyree. I love the advice you ...Oh just beautiful Teddyree. I love the advice you were given about crying when you want to and laughing when you can. <br /><br />I expect it's as relevant now as it was 25 years ago. <br />xxxxDebbishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06305239848096384084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6416388930682401137.post-45786172678117043032015-07-08T16:39:55.253+10:002015-07-08T16:39:55.253+10:00What a beautiful blog post Teddyree...my thoughts ...What a beautiful blog post Teddyree...my thoughts are with you on this special day, your daughter Taleah's 25th birthday.<br /><br />When I was heavily pregnant with my last child, a dear friend of mine Emma, gave birth to a stillborn son Julian. I remember exactly what I was doing when my husband phoned me to tell me the news. I was devastated for her. I went to the funeral to be there for my friend and I recall someone commenting that it was a bit rude that I did that, because as if my friend would want to see someone who was pregnant.<br /><br />I tried to support her as much as I could, and I do believe I was there for her at times she needed a friend. I looked at the photos of her beautiful boy with her, because like any new mother, she wanted to show him off.<br /><br />In talking about how to difficult it was for some people to know how to deal with a friend going through such a terrible grief, something she said to me that I will always remember was that she would prefer 'that friends said the wrong thing rather than to say nothing to her at all'.<br /><br />Seeing her strength through such difficulties times is one of the reasons we named our daughter Emma.<br /><br />Sending special hugs to you today dear friend. xxKaren Barrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01642007005737905844noreply@blogger.com